I said I would run a contest to compliment my Google Keyword Challenge for the top “Hopeless Romantic” Spot, so here it is.   The prize is going to be a gift certificate to Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse valued at $50(or romantic restaurant if Ruth’s Chris is unavailable in your area).  This one should be fun, because if you win, you are not just winning for yourself, but rather for you and your date.  I like the idea because being a Hopeless Romantic is very selfless and by taking someone special to dinner that is just great. 

The deal is, that if you win, you must plan a romantic evening for someone special and then send me your plan.  I will review it and post it, so make it fun and entertaining. It must meet the requirements for a hopeless romantic evening by having it be somewhat of a surprise to your date.  That means you must do something that your date doesn’t know about that will make the evening more exciting.  On the date, take a picture of you and your date and send it to me.  If you give me permission, I would like to post the picture, but I don’t have to.

HOW TO ENTER:

1.) Leave a comment about why you should win and what you preliminary plans for a hopeless romantic date would be. The contest will be judged based on your response.

2.) Digg and Reddit my story by clicking the links.(I can see if it was clicked), also Favorite Me on Technorati if you want.

3.) Tell all your friends internet savvy or not.

4.)Additional emphasis on entries for those who mention this contest on their blog using the following text.

Adam from TheAdamBox.com is making it easy for you to be a hopeless romantic for an evening by giving away a $50 gift certificate for a romantic outing. Enter Here.

The Contest will be run until I recieve at least 25 applicants.

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In continuation of the Image is Everything series, today we bring you techniques on how to improve your image with your body language, vocal tone, and vocal wording.

Have you ever met someone and before you can even say “Jack Robinson” you feel extraordinarily comfortable with that person?  Is it magic or is there a physical reason?  Well today I am going to touch on the methods behind creating that sort of affect.

Let’s first set one thing straight.  Knowing what I am going to tell you today will do you no good unless you practice so much that it becomes natural.  I have known these techniques for a while and I am not sure if I am any better off, because I just don’t focus on practicing them enough.  Maybe writing this article will give me a new energy to practice my body language, vocal tone, and my word choice.  Know also that this is just the bare minimum information about this topic and there are many great books that touch on this in detail. Look down further to see my book suggestions.

Body Language

Some people say that what you have to say means a lot, but I would have to disagree. It isn’t about what you have to say, but rather how you say it.  The very first way that you communicate is with your body.  Almost anyone can tell what kind of mood you are in just by looking at you.  So if you want to appear great, first you must have a good attitude and second you must show confidence and friendliness. 

Showing confidence and strength is a very easy concept, but a very difficult task.

  Would you believe me that by looking at someone directly in the eyes for just a fraction of a second too long can show enormous confidence?  Yep, that is the key.  Easy, right?  Well, give it a try and see how easy it is to remember to do it.  Unless you focus on doing it you will either forget about it or be afraid to do it.  When looking at someone, let them be the first one to break eye contact and then you follow immediately after.  From there on out, during conversation, use your eyes to show extreme interest by looking at their eyes more often than what is initially comfortable.

Now that you have the idea of eye contact, the friendliness comes from your smile.  Doesn’t it feel good to know that someone is happy to meet you?  When we see someone that has a smile that overwhelms their face, we subconsciously think “can they really be that happy to see me? I guess so, this is great.”  The key to a great smile is a big and slow smile.  A genuine smile is a slow and powerful smile.  Look at someone in the eyes and then slowly smile HUGE.  Practice a Huge smile in the mirror so that you know what a Huge smile feels like.  I use to always find myself half smiling in pictures in which I thought I was full smiling.  It is a feeling you have to train your brain.

The best way to get good at this stuff is to first practice in a mirror and then go out and focus on using these techniques with as many people as possible.  Over time it will become more natural.

Vocal Tone and Wording

Vocal tone is the key to making someone feel that you are interested and on the same level as them.  When someone is sad, a vocal tone of excitement will more than likely be unexpected and awkward.  When some is happy, a sad vocal tone is really awkward and depressing.  So the key is to match the person vocal tone and if necessary slowly make changes to control the mood of the conversation. 

Again it doesn’t matter what you say, but how you say it.  With the right vocal tone any topic of conversation can sound exciting, so speak with enthusiasm when talking about yourself.  If you speak with enthusiasm then they get the impression that you are an interesting person.

Another key idea about sounding enthusiastic is to always have something interesting to say.  This does take some practice, but you should have a list in your head about interesting facts about the city you live in and interesting facts about yourself.  Next time someone asks you “Where are you from?”, you should respond with something interesting about your city relating to the person you are talking about.  For example,  I am from Reno,  If I was meeting someone on a backpacking trip, I might respond with “I am from Reno, 20 minutes away from the great Lake Tahoe.”  This opens up the conversation to talking about Lake Tahoe and the outdoors there.    This same technique can be used for any normal question like “What do you do?” or “How did you meet?”.

When talking to someone it is good to repeat and compliment stuff that they say, because it shows you are listening and interested.  Use phrases like, “That is great, that you are able to take a trip to Europe.”, if they were talking how excited they are to go to Europe.

All of these techniques are just the tip of the iceberg and will only get you so far.  Using these techniques regularly will indeed improve your image which directly effects your success. So take the time to practice these techniques and then when you are hungry for more check out the following books.

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While I was reading the latest issue of Positive Thinking Magazine,  I came across a small story about a guy who came across FreeHugscampaign.org in October 2006 and decided to try Free hugs in a busy shopping mall.  The response was overwhelming and he has been doing every weekend since then.  This is a very interesting campaign and I think I might just try it at the local mall just to experience the feeling of helping someone out.  You never know who you might affect by your actions. 

It does seem a little strange and it makes me nervous, but the success is unbelievable and the reward may be undescribable.  All you have to do is make one persons day better and it will be worth it. 

The power of a hug is huge and actually scientifically proven to lower blood pressure. More hugs means lower blood pressure.  Interesting, eh?

If I do it then there will be pictures and a story probably sometime next month.

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Today starts a series that is so important in terms of success.  Almost everything we decide on is based on some reasoning taken from our ideal image or feeling about a topic.  That is why when people say “Image is everything” they are so right.  Take for example politians who will regularly shift their views slightly one way or the other to match the ideal image of their audience.  This is why the term “Flip-Flop” was developed and to be fair to John Kerry, everyone does it.  He just was in the wrong place at the wrong time.  So no matter what we do in life, we have to look at how others feel and how best to present ourselves to increase our success.  This concept is true even down to being a good parent.  Suppose as a parent you swear and yell at your wife, but treat your kids like gold.  Do you think their image of you if great, assuming that they truly love their mother? 

 In this series, I am going to dive into various examples of how image is so important and how to improve your image which eventually will lead to who you are as a person rather than just temporarily changing your image for a single event.  Here are the topics I will be diving into.

• Introduction
• Career - Week 1 - April 30th
  • Dressing for Success
  • Hard Business and Interview Questions with Image in Mind
  • Improve your image by improving your resume
• Life -Week 2 - May 7th
  • Creating a good image with you Body Language and Vocal Tone
  • Living Environment
  • Having a Positive Attitude
• Relationships -Week 3 - May 14th
  • Confidence
  • Attitude

Look for the first section about Image in your Career on Monday April 30th.

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Alec Baldwin is a good actor and I have nothing against him, but the release of this audio tape from a answering machine today is the perfect example of a horrible father.  I don’t think there is every any reason as to why someone should get this mad at their own daughter. 

He calls his daughter a thoughtless little pig and doesn’t even know how old his daughter is.  He tells his daughter that she has insulted him for the last time and that he is going to straighten her ass out. He calls his daughters mother a thoughtless pain in the ass.

If this teaches people anything it should be that if you every find yourself doing actions comparable to Alec, I would think that your life needs a serious change for the better.  Read articles about becoming a postive person and learn to control yourself.  If you can’t control yourself, then get help.  Anyone with that kind of temper is hurting their own life and the lives of people around them. 

Listen to this Audio to see an example of someone who really needs some serious mental help, Alec Baldwin.

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Today in the continuation of the dating guru series, I am going to take a look at my favorite Dating Guru.

**First off, I have no affiliation with David or his products. This is just a personal shout out to a guy that deserves a good word.

His name stage name is David DeAngelo, or just David D. His success in the dating guru business has swept the industry and has given the world step by step the mysterious knowledge of what makes a man successful with woman. He has written several E-books and hold regular seminars which always sell out at over $1500/person. He is known well for his monthly audio series “Interviews with Dating Gurus” and his famous “Cocky and Funny” term used to describe what a “Chick-Magnet” does to be successful with woman.

David started his career in 2001 with his “Double your dating” e-book and his success has grown every year since. He runs an email newsletter which currently has over 1 million subscribers where he responds to emails of subscribers telling him of their dating successes.

Some of the things that David teaches include getting rid of the inner wuss and sexual communication.

Getting rid of the inner wuss is really the process of getting rid of all those things that “mom” taught you about girls (be nice, buy gifts, etc.). He teaches that woman are not attracted to a wuss, but rather the jerk. That is not saying that you have to be a jerk to get woman, but he looks at what a jerk does that is attractive. A jerk is cocky and bold and can get what they want, because they don’t care what others think. So the key to this is to be confident and somewhat cocky about it, but also keeping the cockiness at a funny level, thus “Cocky and Funny”. For example, if a girl asks a guy what he thinks of her new shoes, a wuss could just respond “I like them!”(Boring) or a non-wuss could respond “I really like them; they remind me of my Grandma!” (A little Comedy, but also not afraid to bust on the girl).

Sexual Communication is the art of communicating with woman on a sexual level. Not speech sexual, but rather the way you act and present yourself to communicate sexual attraction. This is golden, because it and all of David’s work is so much more than just what does a guy say, but rather about how does a guy transform the way behaves towards woman. David’s programs require a lot of self-actualization and motivation to improve. In his video series, he teaches men how to analyze themselves and shows them how to change their way of seeing themselves. It is kind of like that saying, “If you don’t believe in yourself, how can others believe in you?”

David has so much to say and I can’t even begin to touch on a part of it without dragging on forever, but you can check out his material at Doubleyourdating.com.

If you struggle with dating, his information will change for life guaranteed. He offers a money back guarantee on all of his products.

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As a guy who has always been “The Nice Guy” in the dating realm, I have over time noticed that obviously I was doing something wrong or not doing something right.  I see guys less attractive them me dating girls that I dream of and think what is wrong with this picture.  As it turns out I am not alone, so this begins the dating guru series in which I will look at the different aspect’s of the dating guru and talk about what I have learned from them.  There will be a new guru series edition every Monday.

There is a growing community of guys who have had this same problem with girls, but decided to do something about it.  The guys who have successfully turned their life’s around from 1 date per year  to 10 dates per week are commonly referred to as Dating Guru’s.  Dating guru’s are the guys who have spent the time and energy to figure out what exactly makes a “Chick Magnet” so successful with women. 

One of my favorite Guru’s “Style” once said that “The dating guru community is kind of like the Cosmo or sex in the city for Men.”  Women read and watch all of this stuff on what to do with guys and what not, but many Men have been somewhat clueless and rather awkward when it comes to women. 

WHY
Someone might ask why are guys doing this and isn’t it weird?  The right answer is that no it isn’t weird, because it is really a matter of learning what society has filtered out do to social beliefs.

As children our mom’s teach us to be “Nice boys” making us believe if you are nice enough to a girl and give her stuff, that some how she will like you back.  On top of that, we have religious movements which suppress many of the natural male instincts.  It is taught to “Save yourself” for marriage and that “lust” is bad, so when a Christian guy, like myself, goes out into the world we subconsciously think that women make us weak and we almost fear that.  The problem is, why are we fearing what is so natural.  I am not saying that lust is good or that sex before marriage is good, but we can’t let those beliefs hinder normal behaviors as simple as kissing a girl or even holding a girls hand.

WHAT DO THEY TEACH
The guru community is about unprogramming the stuff we learned as kids and reprogramming your views to what use to be natural in Men before social effects. 

Some examples:
MOM TEACHES YOU:  If you give her compliments she will feel attracted to you.
REAL WORLD: If you give her compliments she will be repelled.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl she is attracted to you
REAL WORLD:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl is unoriginal and unattractive.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Ask the girl to decide and she will appreciate you caring about her.
REAL WORLD: Ask a girl to decide and she will think you are insecure.

These are only a few examples and apply to meeting girls for the first time.  Obviously you can buy dinner and gifts for a girl once you have a relationship going.

Girls like a challenge and want what they can’t  have, so the guys that play hard to get ,get the girls.

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