What not to do on a first date
This is a hard topic, because every situation is different, but I figure I can give some solid tips on stuff that I have learned from dates that went no where.
The biggest piece of advice you find everywhere is “be yourself”. Give me a break! What kind of advice is that? First of all why would you want to be someone else and second of all being yourself isn’t going to get you anywhere 7 out of 10 times unless you are a “natural” in which you wouldn’t be reading this article.
So a real piece of advice is specific.
- Don’t talk too much.
- I have made this mistake one too many times, because I feel like the conversation will just stall if I don’t keep on talking. Ask them an interesting and engaging question and be a good listener and comment when necessary. For example, “So, what do you think of Britney Spears, lately?” Everyone has something to say about that yet it is light conversation that will just be fun. - Don’t talk about normal things
– Do you really care about their family right now? You just met them. Don’t ask them what’s their major and if they like it. Of course they like their major or else they wouldn’t be in it. Rather, ask them what they want to do with their major. This first of indirectly ask them what their major is and it engages them to talk about what they are passionate about. - Don’t ever get too serious.
– Take your time together as a fun and light hearted event. Don’t ever get into a conversation where you have express a strong opinion where you might have to defend yourself. If they get serious, make fun of them for going serious. They will chuckle and move away from the seriousness. - Don’t pay for their stuff
– This advice is really just for guys, but it is important. It is important to come across as the guy who is there to possibly meet a great girl, but you don’t really care if it goes bad. So don’t go paying for things on the first date, because it just appears that you are trying to buy her enjoyment. If she really likes you, it makes no difference. For a girl, Meeting a great guy is so much more important than whether or not he paid for your lunch. If you marry the person, it will be the best lunch you never paid for! So don’t pay for anything, unless you want to waste your money! - Don’t be negative about anything
– If you haven’t figured this out in life, negativity is very unattractive, I should know since I have been known to be negative sometimes. If they ask you about something that you don’t like, just tell them that you don’t really care for it and move on. Don’t go on a negative rampage! Attraction drops exponentially with negativity, so whatever you do don’t ever talk about how much you don’t like something.
Well, these are a few that I have found to be very important, but this is by no means a complete list, so if you have some more ideas, please feel free to comment.
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Well this has got to be one of the biggest misconceptions about dating, “if I am friends long enough with them, then a romantic interest will grow on them.” FALSE!!
If this statement was true, why wouldn’t they have a romantic interest in the first place? Everyone knows that it only take seconds to develop a romantic interest in someone, so the fact that you are just friends at any point, means there never was romantic interest or that it was already lost at some point. If the later is true, run, run, run! If romantic interest is lost once, it is lost forever.
Realistically, there is no friends before romantic interest, there is just friends with unexpressed romantic interest, which many times people mistake as friends turning into more than friends.
So what do you do? Well, if you have a friend who you think you might like more than friends, you have to ask yourself two questions:
Have we ever openly tried to be more than friends?
Has their ever been an opportunity where both of you are single and looking for significant period of time?
If your answer to number 1 and 2 are both NO, than you just might have a chance, but take it easy and just start out by doing little things like holding hands and anything to initiate touching.
KEY: Touching the hands send signals that science can’t even explain, so if you can hold your friends hand and both of you are ok with it, congratulations, you have successfully made it to the friends with romantic interest scenario.
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Modern Waltz and Venetian Waltz Songs
For anyone who has ever taken a serious dancing lesson, they will know why the Waltz is so amazing. The dance flows and can be very sensual. The very unique time signature of waltz is 3/4 time which makes waltz songs very distinct. If you listen to a song that is in 3/4 time, you can count 1..2..3…1..2..3…1..2..3 with the beat of the music. All waltz moves are a factor of 3, obviously.
Anyways, sometimes the old music is boring, so here are a few of my favorite Waltz or Venetian Waltz songs depending on the BPM.
Name
1. When I Said I Do
2. I’ll Be (Non-Acoustic)
3. Satellite
4. Kiss From A Rose
5. True Love (With Kiki Dee)
6. Rudy Theme Song
7. If You Don’t Know Me By Now
8. Open Arms
9. Three Times A Lady
10. Annie’s Song
11. Take It To the Limit
12. Scarborough Fair
13. Moon River
14. That’s Amore
15. Piano Man
40 Unique Creative Date ideas
Have you ever tried to think of a cool date to take your girlfriend or wife on? Have you ever wanted to impress your girl with a thoughtful date or gift? Are you a hopeless romantic? Well, here is a little help from a guy who has compiled a list of creative ideas. This list is formally known as “The List”, but has been released to help all you gentlemen out. So read on an enjoy!!
1. – Take her down to the beach during a full moon and bring a small tape player and ask her to dance while playing the song “Dancing in the moonlightâ€.
2 – Go to pizza , but before you arrive, call them early and order a pizza shaped like a heart, pretend you don’t know how that happened.
3 – Have her over for dinner and come to a consensus on what she wants cooked for her (give her some options). Then tell that you will cook the dinner, but she has to bring a movie for afterwards. Surprise her with a favorite dessert. Don’t forget the chef’s jacket and setting a nice table.
4 – Bring her flowers and dinner when she is sick.
5 – Take ballroom dancing lessons together. Learn a routine together. Most Romantic: Waltz, Foxtrot, Tango.
6 – Plan a night together giving her little clue for each next event (Do it in a creative way) EXAMPLE Ask waiter to write a clue on the tab and pretend to be surprised and give her the note. Hide a note in the Geocache let her find it. Have a friend deliver a text message to her with a clue.
7 – Go to a Theatrical love story and then go somewhere private and take lines from a love story and speak them to each other while acting out **Pick a section of script which is HOT!!
8 – Drive to the top of a hill to watch the sunset while having a picnic dinner. Pack Italian food and a blanket. Tell her to go setup the blank and sit down while you get the food. While grabbing the food, put the song “That’s Amore†on your CD player and walk over to the blanket in a goofy slick kind of way.
9 – Drive to a hillside and watch the stars. Make sure to bring a blanket and hot chocolate.
10 – Send her flowers on a random day letting her know that you are thinking of her.
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