I said I would run a contest to compliment my Google Keyword Challenge for the top “Hopeless Romantic” Spot, so here it is.   The prize is going to be a gift certificate to Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse valued at $50(or romantic restaurant if Ruth’s Chris is unavailable in your area).  This one should be fun, because if you win, you are not just winning for yourself, but rather for you and your date.  I like the idea because being a Hopeless Romantic is very selfless and by taking someone special to dinner that is just great. 

The deal is, that if you win, you must plan a romantic evening for someone special and then send me your plan.  I will review it and post it, so make it fun and entertaining. It must meet the requirements for a hopeless romantic evening by having it be somewhat of a surprise to your date.  That means you must do something that your date doesn’t know about that will make the evening more exciting.  On the date, take a picture of you and your date and send it to me.  If you give me permission, I would like to post the picture, but I don’t have to.

HOW TO ENTER:

1.) Leave a comment about why you should win and what you preliminary plans for a hopeless romantic date would be. The contest will be judged based on your response.

2.) Digg and Reddit my story by clicking the links.(I can see if it was clicked), also Favorite Me on Technorati if you want.

3.) Tell all your friends internet savvy or not.

4.)Additional emphasis on entries for those who mention this contest on their blog using the following text.

Adam from TheAdamBox.com is making it easy for you to be a hopeless romantic for an evening by giving away a $50 gift certificate for a romantic outing. Enter Here.

The Contest will be run until I recieve at least 25 applicants.

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Today in the continuation of the dating guru series, I am going to take a look at my favorite Dating Guru.

**First off, I have no affiliation with David or his products. This is just a personal shout out to a guy that deserves a good word.

His name stage name is David DeAngelo, or just David D. His success in the dating guru business has swept the industry and has given the world step by step the mysterious knowledge of what makes a man successful with woman. He has written several E-books and hold regular seminars which always sell out at over $1500/person. He is known well for his monthly audio series “Interviews with Dating Gurus” and his famous “Cocky and Funny” term used to describe what a “Chick-Magnet” does to be successful with woman.

David started his career in 2001 with his “Double your dating” e-book and his success has grown every year since. He runs an email newsletter which currently has over 1 million subscribers where he responds to emails of subscribers telling him of their dating successes.

Some of the things that David teaches include getting rid of the inner wuss and sexual communication.

Getting rid of the inner wuss is really the process of getting rid of all those things that “mom” taught you about girls (be nice, buy gifts, etc.). He teaches that woman are not attracted to a wuss, but rather the jerk. That is not saying that you have to be a jerk to get woman, but he looks at what a jerk does that is attractive. A jerk is cocky and bold and can get what they want, because they don’t care what others think. So the key to this is to be confident and somewhat cocky about it, but also keeping the cockiness at a funny level, thus “Cocky and Funny”. For example, if a girl asks a guy what he thinks of her new shoes, a wuss could just respond “I like them!”(Boring) or a non-wuss could respond “I really like them; they remind me of my Grandma!” (A little Comedy, but also not afraid to bust on the girl).

Sexual Communication is the art of communicating with woman on a sexual level. Not speech sexual, but rather the way you act and present yourself to communicate sexual attraction. This is golden, because it and all of David’s work is so much more than just what does a guy say, but rather about how does a guy transform the way behaves towards woman. David’s programs require a lot of self-actualization and motivation to improve. In his video series, he teaches men how to analyze themselves and shows them how to change their way of seeing themselves. It is kind of like that saying, “If you don’t believe in yourself, how can others believe in you?”

David has so much to say and I can’t even begin to touch on a part of it without dragging on forever, but you can check out his material at Doubleyourdating.com.

If you struggle with dating, his information will change for life guaranteed. He offers a money back guarantee on all of his products.

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As a guy who has always been “The Nice Guy” in the dating realm, I have over time noticed that obviously I was doing something wrong or not doing something right.  I see guys less attractive them me dating girls that I dream of and think what is wrong with this picture.  As it turns out I am not alone, so this begins the dating guru series in which I will look at the different aspect’s of the dating guru and talk about what I have learned from them.  There will be a new guru series edition every Monday.

There is a growing community of guys who have had this same problem with girls, but decided to do something about it.  The guys who have successfully turned their life’s around from 1 date per year  to 10 dates per week are commonly referred to as Dating Guru’s.  Dating guru’s are the guys who have spent the time and energy to figure out what exactly makes a “Chick Magnet” so successful with women. 

One of my favorite Guru’s “Style” once said that “The dating guru community is kind of like the Cosmo or sex in the city for Men.”  Women read and watch all of this stuff on what to do with guys and what not, but many Men have been somewhat clueless and rather awkward when it comes to women. 

WHY
Someone might ask why are guys doing this and isn’t it weird?  The right answer is that no it isn’t weird, because it is really a matter of learning what society has filtered out do to social beliefs.

As children our mom’s teach us to be “Nice boys” making us believe if you are nice enough to a girl and give her stuff, that some how she will like you back.  On top of that, we have religious movements which suppress many of the natural male instincts.  It is taught to “Save yourself” for marriage and that “lust” is bad, so when a Christian guy, like myself, goes out into the world we subconsciously think that women make us weak and we almost fear that.  The problem is, why are we fearing what is so natural.  I am not saying that lust is good or that sex before marriage is good, but we can’t let those beliefs hinder normal behaviors as simple as kissing a girl or even holding a girls hand.

WHAT DO THEY TEACH
The guru community is about unprogramming the stuff we learned as kids and reprogramming your views to what use to be natural in Men before social effects. 

Some examples:
MOM TEACHES YOU:  If you give her compliments she will feel attracted to you.
REAL WORLD: If you give her compliments she will be repelled.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl she is attracted to you
REAL WORLD:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl is unoriginal and unattractive.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Ask the girl to decide and she will appreciate you caring about her.
REAL WORLD: Ask a girl to decide and she will think you are insecure.

These are only a few examples and apply to meeting girls for the first time.  Obviously you can buy dinner and gifts for a girl once you have a relationship going.

Girls like a challenge and want what they can’t  have, so the guys that play hard to get ,get the girls.

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Many people may wonder what a hopeless romantic is, but for the ones who are a hopeless romantic, it is all too obvious.  So I am going to try and break it down.

There are more examples of a hopeless romantic than I can name and most of them are from movies.  So in that sense, a hopeless romantic dreams of the fantasy’s that are played out perfect in a movie.  Rational people would say that movies are fake and that no one really has a relationship like “The Notebook“, “A Walk to Remember“, “Titanic “, etc.  But to a hopeless romantic it is perfectly logical that a movie scenario could happen in real life, because it is physically possible maybe not plausible though. 

I believe that in reality if a hopeless romantic played things out like a movie does, then it would be very likely that both people in the relationship would enjoy the scenario. 

People are skeptical of the idea of movie style love, because it is too good to be true and it takes way to much work to have the world turn like a movie.  I totally disagree with the sceptics, because hopeless romantics thrive on the challenge to make a relationship magical.

Hopeless Romantics are great at imagining the perfect scenario’s, but often fail at executing the scenario because of the magic that needs to be present.  So much of a hopeless romantics vision is being with the perfect person in the perfect situation.  So a hopeless romantic may go unrecognized because the situation or person is not perfect.  A Hopeless romantic is continuously striving to find their night in shining armor or princess to carry off to the beach to cuddle under a moon lit sky. 

A Hopeless romantic get’s excited by the fact that they have so much energy to love the perfect person.  It would be safe to say that a hopeless romantic greatly values completely giving themselves up to the one that they love.  When that perfect person comes the energy will flow like water down a waterfall with the only incentive being to make their partner feel overjoyed with excitement.  It is really the art of romancing that they love.

Being a hopeless romantic may lead to unnecessary agony while trying to find that perfect person, but the dream of having a “Happily every after” life is so great that any heartache is small compared to the joy one gets from the adventure of being a hopeless romantic.

Hopeless Romantic’s will love my list of 40 creative things to do on a date.  This is what hopeless romantics do.  They dream up sceneries and in my case I write down scenarios so I don’t forget them.

If you like this story, send it to people, share it and link to it, because I believe so strongly is the idea of being a hopeless romantic, that I am setting a goal to be #1 on Google under “Hopeless Romantic”, just for S*its and giggles.

Bookmark this page for updates to “Hopeless romantic” examples from movies and for further information on how to be a better hopeless romantic.

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This is a hard topic, because every situation is different, but I figure I can give some solid tips on stuff that I have learned from dates that went no where.

The biggest piece of advice you find everywhere is “be yourself”.  Give me a break! What kind of advice is that?  First of all why would you want to be someone else and second of all being yourself isn’t going to get you anywhere 7 out of 10 times unless you are a “natural” in which you wouldn’t be reading this article.

So a real piece of advice is specific.

1. Don’t talk too much.
       - I have made this mistake one too many times, because I feel like the conversation will just stall if I don’t keep on talking.  Ask them an interesting and engaging question and be a good listener and comment when necessary.  For example, “So, what do you think of Britney Spears, lately?” Everyone has something to say about that yet it is light conversation that will just be fun. 
2. Don’t talk about normal things
      - Do you really care about their family right now? You just met them.  Don’t ask them what’s their major and if they like it.  Of course they like their major or else they wouldn’t be in it. Rather, ask them what they want to do with their major. This first of indirectly ask them what their major is and it engages them to talk about what they are passionate about.
3. Don’t ever get too serious.
     - Take your time together as a fun and light hearted event.  Don’t ever get into a conversation where you have express a strong opinion where you might have to defend yourself.  If they get serious, make fun of them for going serious.  They will chuckle and move away from the seriousness.
4. Don’t pay for their stuff
     - This advice is really just for guys, but it is important.  It is important to come across as the guy who is there to possibly meet a great girl, but you don’t really care if it goes bad.  So don’t go paying for things on the first date, because it just appears that you are trying to buy her enjoyment.  If she really likes you, it makes no difference.  For a girl, Meeting a great guy is so much more important than whether or not he paid for your lunch.  If you marry the person, it will be the best lunch you never paid for!  So don’t pay for anything, unless you want to waste your money!
5. Don’t be negative about anything
     - If you haven’t figured this out in life, negativity is very unattractive, I should know since I have been known to be negative sometimes.  If they ask you about something that you don’t like, just tell them that you don’t really care for it and move on.  Don’t go on a negative rampage!  Attraction drops exponentially with negativity, so whatever you do don’t ever talk about how much you don’t like something.

Well, these are a few that I have found to be very important, but this is by no means a complete list, so if you have some more ideas, please feel free to comment.

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Well this has got to be one of the biggest misconceptions about dating, “if I am friends long enough with them, then a romantic interest will grow on them.” FALSE!!

If this statement was true, why wouldn’t they have a romantic interest in the first place?  Everyone knows that it only take seconds to develop a romantic interest in someone, so the fact that you are just friends at any point, means there never was romantic interest or that it was already lost at some point. If the later is true, run, run, run! If romantic interest is lost once, it is lost forever.

Realistically, there is no friends before romantic interest, there is just friends with unexpressed romantic interest, which many times people mistake as friends turning into more than friends. 

So what do you do?  Well, if you have a friend who you think you might like more than friends, you have to ask yourself two questions:

Have we ever openly tried to be more than friends?

Has their ever been an opportunity where both of you are single and looking for significant period of time?

If your answer to number 1 and 2 are both NO, than you just might have a chance, but take it easy and just start out by doing little things like holding hands and anything to initiate touching.

KEY:  Touching the hands send signals that science can’t even explain, so if you can hold your friends hand and both of you are ok with it, congratulations, you have successfully made it to the friends with romantic interest scenario. 

Feel free to comment.

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For anyone who has ever taken a serious dancing lesson, they will know why the Waltz is so amazing. The dance flows and can be very sensual. The very unique time signature of waltz is 3/4 time which makes waltz songs very distinct. If you listen to a song that is in 3/4 time, you can count 1..2..3…1..2..3…1..2..3 with the beat of the music. All waltz moves are a factor of 3, obviously.
Anyways, sometimes the old music is boring, so here are a few of my favorite Waltz or Venetian Waltz songs depending on the BPM.

Name
1. When I Said I Do
2. I’ll Be (Non-Acoustic)
3. Satellite
4. Kiss From A Rose
5. True Love (With Kiki Dee)
6. Rudy Theme Song
7. If You Don’t Know Me By Now
8. Open Arms
9. Three Times A Lady
10. Annie’s Song
11. Take It To the Limit
12. Scarborough Fair
13. Moon River
14. That’s Amore
15. Piano Man

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