Dating Guru Series: Who, Why, What

As a guy who has always been “The Nice Guy” in the dating realm, I have over time noticed that obviously I was doing something wrong or not doing something right.  I see guys less attractive them me dating girls that I dream of and think what is wrong with this picture.  As it turns out I am not alone, so this begins the dating guru series in which I will look at the different aspect’s of the dating guru and talk about what I have learned from them.  There will be a new guru series edition every Monday.

There is a growing community of guys who have had this same problem with girls, but decided to do something about it.  The guys who have successfully turned their life’s around from 1 date per year  to 10 dates per week are commonly referred to as Dating Guru’s.  Dating guru’s are the guys who have spent the time and energy to figure out what exactly makes a “Chick Magnet” so successful with women. 

One of my favorite Guru’s “Style” once said that “The dating guru community is kind of like the Cosmo or sex in the city for Men.”  Women read and watch all of this stuff on what to do with guys and what not, but many Men have been somewhat clueless and rather awkward when it comes to women. 

WHY
Someone might ask why are guys doing this and isn’t it weird?  The right answer is that no it isn’t weird, because it is really a matter of learning what society has filtered out do to social beliefs.

As children our mom’s teach us to be “Nice boys” making us believe if you are nice enough to a girl and give her stuff, that some how she will like you back.  On top of that, we have religious movements which suppress many of the natural male instincts.  It is taught to “Save yourself” for marriage and that “lust” is bad, so when a Christian guy, like myself, goes out into the world we subconsciously think that women make us weak and we almost fear that.  The problem is, why are we fearing what is so natural.  I am not saying that lust is good or that sex before marriage is good, but we can’t let those beliefs hinder normal behaviors as simple as kissing a girl or even holding a girls hand.

WHAT DO THEY TEACH
The guru community is about unprogramming the stuff we learned as kids and reprogramming your views to what use to be natural in Men before social effects. 

Some examples:
MOM TEACHES YOU:  If you give her compliments she will feel attracted to you.
REAL WORLD: If you give her compliments she will be repelled.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl she is attracted to you
REAL WORLD:  Buy Dinners and Gift for a girl is unoriginal and unattractive.

MOM TEACHES YOU:  Ask the girl to decide and she will appreciate you caring about her.
REAL WORLD: Ask a girl to decide and she will think you are insecure.

These are only a few examples and apply to meeting girls for the first time.  Obviously you can buy dinner and gifts for a girl once you have a relationship going.

Girls like a challenge and want what they can’t  have, so the guys that play hard to get ,get the girls.

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