Dating: More than friends or not?

Well this has got to be one of the biggest misconceptions about dating, “if I am friends long enough with them, then a romantic interest will grow on them.” FALSE!!

If this statement was true, why wouldn’t they have a romantic interest in the first place?  Everyone knows that it only take seconds to develop a romantic interest in someone, so the fact that you are just friends at any point, means there never was romantic interest or that it was already lost at some point. If the later is true, run, run, run! If romantic interest is lost once, it is lost forever.

Realistically, there is no friends before romantic interest, there is just friends with unexpressed romantic interest, which many times people mistake as friends turning into more than friends. 

So what do you do?  Well, if you have a friend who you think you might like more than friends, you have to ask yourself two questions:

Have we ever openly tried to be more than friends?

Has their ever been an opportunity where both of you are single and looking for significant period of time?

If your answer to number 1 and 2 are both NO, than you just might have a chance, but take it easy and just start out by doing little things like holding hands and anything to initiate touching.

KEY:  Touching the hands send signals that science can’t even explain, so if you can hold your friends hand and both of you are ok with it, congratulations, you have successfully made it to the friends with romantic interest scenario. 

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attraction, Dating, Friends, romantic interest